AOC froze her eggs at 36. Here’s what my generation got wrong about motherhood

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Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez recently announced that, at 36, she is freezing her eggs.

She has chosen to make the deeply personal process public, describing the decision as one that has given her a greater sense of control over her life and left her feeling empowered.

I don’t begrudge her that decision.

I hope she gets the family she wants, when she wants it.

But her announcement made me think about the message my generation of women received about motherhood — and the one we are now passing down to future generations of girls.

AOC DOCUMENTS EGG-FREEZING JOURNEY, TAKES AIM AT TRUMP ADMIN OVER WOMEN'S REPRODUCTIVE CHOICES When did postponing motherhood become a symbol of female empowerment? AOC and I are essentially the same age.

We came of age during the rise of the "girl boss," when female empowerment was increasingly defined by independence, achievement and personal fulfillment.

Travel.

Build yourself.

Establish yourself.

Prove yourself.

The message was relentlessly centered on the self: What do I want? What makes me happy? What life do I want to build? Put yourself first.

Everything else can come later.